Tony Soprano said it best when he claimed, “‘Remember when’ is the lowest form of conversation that any two people can have.”
You know what? I’m a big believer in that and here’s why.
It’s a really sad state, man, because I talk to a lot of people and they’ll instantly go to, “Well, I remember when my business was successful in the early 2000’s.”
I don’t understand why people choose to live in the past and believe that they already peaked when they have an additional 30, 40, 50, or even 60 years ahead of themselves.
It’s something that really bothers me because, as far as I’m concerned, you should never peak.
I happen to know a guy, and I’m not going to mention his name, who was an amazing football player. Sadly, anytime I see this guy, the conversation is always about high school and the hay days we had together back then.
Man, he was a great athlete back then. He did so many amazing things. Thing is, he could have already done so much more had he stuck to being competitive and living his life on the edge, pushing the boundaries of his comfort zone. Instead, he gained about 60 or 70 pounds and drives a shuttle for a hotel.
Now, there isn’t anything wrong with being a shuttle bus driver for a hotel if that’s your passion and your purpose. If it is, you better be the damn best shuttle bus driver there is.
But I can tell you that when I look into my friend’s eyes, I see someone that’s dead.
The fire is gone.
This is a guy who was one of the best football players in all of California back in the day. My friend is simply caught up in the past.
Whenever those “remember when” conversations come up, I cringe inside. I just want to take him and shake him and help him get back in shape. I want to help him get his head straight and let him know that he’s got another 50 years ahead of him.
Sadly, when I’ve tried, it just doesn’t compute.
I don’t know where you are in your life, but I can tell you this, man. If you’re living in the past, stop it, because I promise you that the best is yet to come.
You can read more books, lose weight, eat better, work out, focus on making money and contributing to society, help others and living abundantly. All of these things will help you grow so that your best is always around the corner.
So many people live in fear and doubt. They watch the news and all they hear is negativity and crime and the economy.
Newsflash: You can create your own economy. Or, go out there and work out for the body you’ve always wanted. Fine-tune that mindset of yours to burst through the threshold of your comfort zone.
Finally, cut out all those crabs and time vampires out of your life. You know, those people who suck you dry of your ambition and zest for life…
So you never want to peak? No problem. I have two simple rules to live by if you want to do just that.
First, you always want to take action. Even imperfect action.
Think about it. If you have an idea, and that idea is worthwhile, why not take action on it?
Even an imperfect step in the right direction is… a step in the right direction.
Second, surround yourself with winners.
Again, you will feed off of the emotions around you. If you’re always around successful people who exude positivity and vigor, that energy is likely to rub off on you.
Practice these two steps and you’ll never peak. You’ll always be charging toward something new, something greater.
Let me give you an example from my own life…
I’m currently 40 years old. I’m busted up. Where do I start?
I’ve had an ACL reconstruction, I’ve had a torn bicep reattached, I’ve torn my lower back, I’ve torn a peck. I have done a whole lot of damage over the years. Recently, I hyper extended my knee. They had to carve a huge hole into the bottom of my foot.
Why did all of this happen to me?
Well, quite frankly, I like to set six-week “challenges” for myself. This started in 2010 when I decided to get out of my comfort zone and run a marathon.
If you know anything about me, lifting weights is where I dominate in fitness. But if you put me in running shoes and tell me to jog until the sun don’t shine, I’m like a fish out of water.
So I gave myself six weeks to somehow transform into an awesome runner. I hired a running coach to push me to my limits.
And guess what? I ran the San Diego Marathon.
It was painful. I hated it the whole time, but when I crossed that finish line, it was the most exhilarating feeling ever.
I realized that my best was not behind me, seeing that I just peaked when I ran a marathon. But I didn’t want to stop there…
So I decided to dedicate six weeks to surfing. Three days a week.
Let me tell you, I’m not buoyant. I sink. I’m not the strongest swimmer ever. There were plenty of reasons for me to pack my bags and try something more up my alley.
That didn’t matter to me because, by God, I would not let myself peak and neither are you. I spent the next six weeks learning how to surf and today, it’s this therapeutic thing that I do three or four times a week.
I want you to think about what you need to do to get to that place where you’ll never peak, where you can grow and expand your mind and personal beliefs. There’s always a chance to professionally grow and make more money and help more people, right?
What do you need to do then?
It’s comfortable to reflect on your past accomplishments. It’s bold to shake things up and go for more.
I believe in you. I know you can do this. I want you to do this.
The question is, what are you going to do about it?
Listen, man. You will peak, but you’ll peak way in to the future, just days before you die. I want you to always remember this: your best is yet to come.
Committed to your success,